Bullying In The Workplace

Being bullied is a painful experience, and one which is regularly dealt with by professional hypnotherapists. It can bring on a wide range of symptoms including feeling sick, shaky, tearful, panic-stricken and sleeplessness. Sometimes, we may not even realise the root of our distress is that we are being bullied, because when we are in that situation, there is a tendency to blame ourselves.

The advice given to people experiencing bullying is often unhelpful.

“Just ignore it” “Stand up for yourself” “Just avoid them”

Unfortunately, removing ourselves from places where we might be bullied is not a realistic option. We can’t just stop going to work!!

Why do some people get bullied, whereas others don’t?

The most likely reason is that you arouse envy and jealousy. When we are being bullied, our confidence takes a hammering, so this may be a difficult idea to accept, but it is true. You have qualities that the bully recognises and also fears.

This may mean for example, that you are, yes, own up to it, extremely physically attractive, highly intelligent, very good at your job, sociable, likeable and pleasant company, people like you.

You might be quite affluent, honest, conscientious and kind-hearted. The bully hates you for the fact that you exist, and for the fact that you are loved and desirable. Deep down, bullies are tortured with self-doubt which they cover up with cruel words and actions. They feel bitter, insecure and unloved. They know how to bully, as they have usually been victims themselves and have decided to get their own back on the world.

But why are others not bullied?

Your key vulnerability compared to others who escape bullying, is that perhaps, you underestimate yourself and how influential you are, or could be, and possibly suffer from a lack of self-worth as a result. This lack of self-confidence becomes the chink in the armour, providing an access point for the bully.

Unwittingly, you are a potent cocktail of tantalising strengths and delicate sensitivities. After all, if they perceived you as powerless, they would ignore you!

The cyber bully

Modern life has more than its fair share of issues that can give rise to stress and anxiety but the rise of online bullying has made coping with life so much harder and is cause for concern.

The stress, anxiety and even depression caused by bullying and online harassment can be debilitating and GPs often prescribe medication or talking therapies to counter this.

The National Council for Hypnotherapy says: “While some people manage, more and more people are showing signs of over-anxiety, which leads to stress, which can make a significant impact on the quality of life and wellbeing.”

People can suffer from a wide variety of distressing feelings such as panic attacks, anxiety, anger or inadequacy. Whatever the problem feeling, hypnotherapy can certainly help.

By working with your subconscious mind, you can help bring about changes to deal with stressful situations like bullying.

Bullies at work meetings

As soon as you try to raise a valid point, a bully may engage in passive-aggressive behaviour such as yawning, raising eyebrows, shuffling papers, checking their phone, looking out of the window, not acknowledging the point you made or immediately switching topic.

Bullies of offer false support

Bullies may suggest you attend basic training courses which are well beneath your existing level in order to ‘up skill’.

Such as ‘Here’s a leaflet I picked up for you about spreadsheet training for beginners in maths.’

Identifying your ‘mistakes’ and pretending to protect you. Bullies are usually insecure and terrified of making mistakes or being seen to make them, so they often focus on your supposed errors, lying or misrepresenting what has happened, which would be difficult for you to disprove. Such as

‘I had to stay late to sort out the files after you were using them so we didn’t waste time this morning.’

Does any of this sound all too familiar??

Here’s how to get the power back!!

Conquer your bullying fears and raise your self-confidence in just a few sessions, which can be life-changing.

By building a healthy self-esteem we can become empowered to stand up for ourselves and to be able to accurately assess the truth in the hurtful comments.

And when we change our reaction to being bullied, however subtle the bully notices and the bullying usually then stops because they are no longer achieving the same outcome. This powerful comprehensive 6 audio hypnosis program helps you to ignore the bully and be unaffected by their comments or actions and to help you remain calm happy positive and confident in you and all you do. Feel empowered in your own self-belief and know you can change this!!

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